April 27, 2009 at 3:09 pm 11 comments

The issue of alcohol has been brought up several times recently.  I had sort of been ignoring the issue – after all, the wedding is going to be over lunch time and afternoon – no reason to get drunk.  We’ll have plenty of entertainment sans-alcohol and alcohol is darned expensive.

However, some folks don’t feel like it’s a wedding unless there’s alcohol.  Part of me wants to tell them to take a flying leap – after all, it’s not their wedding.  But another part of me does understand that a little social lubricant can ease things up and make for a good time.

While discussing this issue with Alchaun I brought up the possibility of an after-party.  The wedding is so early that we’ll definitely be packing up by mid/late afternoon, which leaves room for heading back home and having a few more hours of fun at home.  

There are a couple problems with this plan: 

  1. It seems like it will be extremely rude to say to out of town guests “Thanks for coming to the wedding – peace out!” and split with friends
  2. On the other hand, an open invitation could end up with a crazy number of people over at the house
  3. Alchaun and I will definitely want some dedicated alone time that evening

Maybe the best plan is to save the drunken party for another weekend…


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  • 1. Crystal  |  April 27, 2009 at 6:41 pm

    Tell them to take a flying leap.

    1) You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to at your wedding. That INCLUDES providing alcohol. This is a day for you and Alchaun, and quite honestly, the rest of us can take a flying leap. We’re there for you. Not the booze. =)

    2) You’ve never been a heavy drinker, and alcohol has a sticky history. I think it’s commendable to do a wedding WITHOUT alcohol. You’ve got a very alternative vibe going anyway. No amount of alcohol should be needed for people to have fun at a wedding full of GAMES, for crying out loud.

    3) NO to the afterparty. Are you off your gourd?! As a now out-of-townie, I fully expect to be given the boot after we pack it up. Again, the day is for you and Alchaun. It’s not your responsibility to entertain us, it’s for us to be there for the two of you as you start your married life together.

    4) IF there are people who want to get together and drink to you both, then it is on THEM. Maybe they should plan some sort of happy hour/congratulatory celebration for you guys a few days later.


    • 2. Ashley  |  April 27, 2009 at 6:53 pm

      I love the phrase “Are you off your gourd?!” It made me laugh.

      • 3. Crystal  |  April 28, 2009 at 2:40 pm

        I thought it was appropriate, given our crafty 3 ft gourd making history. 😉

  • 4. StefaniOliverio  |  April 30, 2009 at 1:43 am

    I agree with Crystal. You are not required to have alcohol at your wedding. You’re doing your own thing with every other wedding detail why would you be pressured to do something you aren’t comfortable with on the alcohol detail?

  • 5. Nick the Casual Drinker  |  May 5, 2009 at 6:41 pm

    You’ve said it was a hard thing to decide on. For what it’s worth, I agree with Crystal. It’s your day. You call the shots…oh, sorry.

    However, this is the biggest party you’ll ever throw (assumed). A party drink (non-alcoholic) mixer, maybe? Like some kind of exotic juice or soda mix? Giving something new to drink may be an option.

    After careful consideration, the after party is an option, but here’s a thought. Not at the house, Trey and kevin will never leave! You and Alchaun rent a room at wherever. Make the partiers rent another room same place or nearby. This way you could party with the gang (who is conveniently arranging their own thing) and sneak out and throw your own party, heh heh.

  • 6. Ashley  |  May 5, 2009 at 6:46 pm

    This subject sure has raised quite a lot of discussion. Fun times!

  • 7. Alchaun  |  May 5, 2009 at 6:54 pm

    I kinda want an after party kinda thing, but more like an after wedding people take us to dinner party thing. All relaxed not in formal clothes and such, and then the late evening people can go about their merry ways till the next day where we get taken to a after wedding day breakfast thing.

    Nick you still owe me Denny’s.

    • 8. Ashley  |  May 5, 2009 at 6:59 pm

      ROFFLES – when I was reading this I thought it was Nick posting because Nick and I were just talking about this and I was all mad when he presumed we would be taking him to dinner.

      I think an after-wedding casual dinner sounds lovely – it will probably be the first chance Alchaun and I have to slow down and actually eat.

      • 9. Nick the Casual Drinker  |  May 5, 2009 at 7:05 pm

        Who’s in charge of this one?

      • 10. Ashley  |  May 5, 2009 at 7:17 pm

        Wow – it won’t let it go more than 3 levels of comments deep – that’s weird. Anyway – I imagine we together with the wedding party will plan this, and since it’s casual we can all just cover our own meals. I sure wouldn’t like to dictate a free meal to us from ya’ll. We’ll just need to pick a place and make a reservation and it’ll all be cool.

  • 11. Shannon  |  May 12, 2009 at 6:35 am

    It is totally possible to have a wicked fun wedding without alcohol. I did it. Mt. Dew is the perfect toasting drink 😉

    No, but seriously…it’s your day, and we’re all here for you guys. Who the crap cares what we think? You shouldn’t! Haha!

    ❤ I love you guys.


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